“Your potential, the absolute best you’re capable of – that’s the metric to measure yourself against. Your standards are. Winning is not enough. People can get lucky and win. People can be assholes and win. Anyone can win. But not everyone is the best possible version of themselves.” ~ Ryan Holiday, Ego is the Enemy
“Daring ideas are like chessmen moved forward; they may be beaten, but they may start a winning game.” ~ Goethe, via Blog of Jonathan Fields
“For me the joy of athletics has never resided in winning. I derive just as much happiness from the process as from the results. I don’t mind losing as long as I see improvement or I feel I’ve done as well as I possibly could. If I lose, I just go back to the track and work some more.” ~ Jackie Joyner-Kersee
In our own lives, having a mind-set of expecting to win increases our odds of winning. It helps us get better results. And better results help us increase our credibility and self-confidence, which leads to more positive self-expectancy, and more winning – and the upward cycle continues. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
As Harvard Business School professor and writer Rosabeth Moss Kanter has observed, “Confidence consists of positive expectations for favorable outcomes… winning begets winning, because it produces confidence at four levels.” The first of those levels, she says, is “self-confidence: an emotional climate of high expectations.” The second level is “confidence in one another.”
So if you want to increase your results, expect to win – not only for yourself, but also for your team. Not at all costs, but honorably. Not at the expense of others, but in conjunction with others. Expecting to win – and expecting others to win – is a fundamental approach of helping to bring it about.
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“If you want to play the game and win, you’ve got to play ‘full out.’ You’ve got to be willing to feel stupid, and you’ve got to be willing to try things that might not work – and if they don’t work, be willing to change your approach. Otherwise, how could you innovate, how could you grow, how could you discovery who you really are?” ~ Anthony Robbins, Awaken the Giant Within
“Every time you stay out late; every time you sleep in; every time you miss a workout; every time you don’t give 100% – You make it that much easier for me to beat you.” ~ Unknown
Whenever I find myself wanting to sleep in, skip a workout, or turn down the intensity, I try and think of this quote – because it almost always pushes me forward and through.
When you’re in competition mode, you have to go above and beyond what your competition is doing – it’s the logic of winning.
And as far as I know – when I’m sitting there feeling lazy, tired, unmotivated and wanting to check my Facebook – my competition has already finished their workout, plus some.
They went above and beyond and ate healthy too; or had a bonus session on top of their regular workout; or read a book on taking the competitive edge!
Think about a time when you won – by a lot.
Think about what was going through your mind…
- “Who’s ready to celebrate?!”
- “What are we having for dinner?”
- “All of my hard work has finally paid off.”
Think also about a time when you lost – by a lot.
Think about what was going through your mind after that…
- “This isn’t for me.”
- “I’m ready for bed… It has been a long day.”
- “I don’t even want to think about competition anymore.”
Now, think about a time when you almost won – but didn’t.
“A near win shifts our view of the landscape. It can turn future goals, which we tend to envision at a distance, into more proximate events. We consider temporal distance as we do spatial distance. (Visualize a great day tomorrow and we see it with granular, practical clarity. But picture what a great day in the future might be like, not tomorrow but fifty years from now, and the image will be hazier.)” ~ Sarah Lewis, The Rise
“In our own lives, having a mind-set of expecting to win increases our odds of winning. It helps us get better results. And better results help us increase our credibility and self-confidence, which leads to more positive self-expectancy, and more winning – and the upward cycle continues. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.” ~ Stephen M. R. Covey, The Speed of Trust
“Wanting to win isn’t enough. You have to go through a process to improve. That takes patience, perseverance, and intentionality.” ~ John C. Maxwell, Leadership Gold
…And how to harness one of the greatest powers on earth… Heart power.
“If you don’t think you’re a winner, you don’t belong here.” ~ Vince Lombardi
“Success is like anything worthwhile. It has a price. You have to pay the price to win and you have to pay the price to get to the point where success is possible. Most important, you must pay the price to stay there.” ~ Vince Lombardi