“If you’re a part of a shitty relationship, you owe it to yourself to move on. You owe it to yourself to be happy with the relationships you have. You are in control. Besides, moving on is sometimes the best way to develop new, empowering relationships. Starting anew, empty-handed and full-hearted, you can build fresher, stronger, more supportive relationships—important relationships that allow you to have fun and be happy and contribute beyond yourself. These are the meaningful relationships we all need.” ~ The Minimalists, Everything That Remains
“It is felt that a disciplined mind leads to happiness and an undisciplined mind leads to suffering.” ~ Dalai Lama, via Life Hack
“Once [our] basic needs are met (food, clothing, shelter, etc), the message is clear: we don’t need more money, we don’t need greater success or fame, we don’t need the perfect body or even the perfect mate – right now, at this very moment, we have a mind, which is all the basic equipment we need to achieve complete happiness.” ~ Dalai Lama, The Art of Happiness
“Our moment-to-moment happiness is largely determined by our outlook. In fact, whether we are feeling happy or unhappy at any given moment often has very little to do with our absolute conditions but, rather it is a function of how we perceive our situation, how satisfied we are with what we have.” ~ Dalai Lama, The Art of Happiness
Each of your senses acts as a floodgate that, when opened, unleashes a rush of information that allows you to interpret and interact with life.
When you open your eyes, all of the visuals from your surrounding environment pour in; When you open your ears, all of the sounds from your environment vibrate in; When you open your mouth and eat food, all of the tastes come surging in; etc.
Once you understand this, two things become evidently clear in regards to improving the quality of your life.
First: High quality environments allow in high quality information and vice-versa.
If you open up a floodgate that is trapping water filled with toxic waste, sewage, trash, and chemicals – then that’s what’s going to flow in.
So, too, is it true that when you open your senses to an environment filled with toxic conversations, bull shit, trash talk, and manipulative advertisements – that’s what’s going to flow into your being and is what’s going to affect your thoughts and behaviors.
“The believer is not a seeker. The believer does not want to seek, that’s why he believes. The believer wants to avoid seeking, that’s why he believes. The believer wants to be delivered, saved, he needs a savor. He is always in search of a messiah – somebody who can eat for him, chew for him, digest for him. But if I eat, your hunger is not going to be satisfied. Nobody can save you except yourself.” ~ Osho, The Art of Living and Dying
The Perpetuating Effect Of Our Actions. All Of Our Actions. Big and Small. And Why You Should Act Wisely.
“Everything you do has an impact. Who you are – that you are – actually matters. In an interconnected world (the only kind we have), our actions and the actions of others are inextricably linked- we are always and forever in a dance of mutual influence with those with whom we directly and indirectly participate. It is the unavoidable reality of being social creatures, only magnified by an ever-increasingly complex and interwoven societal structure. We matter to each other.” ~ Paul Greiner
Drop a stone in water and watch the ripples flow gracefully and powerfully from the center.
The actions we take on a daily basis aren’t much different from that stone.
We already are making a difference in the world – we just might not realize it yet.
Every action has its ripples.
I was browsing through my Facebook newsfeed as I occasionally do, and I stumbled upon a post on mindset.
The opening line was ever so seductively, “Let’s talk about mindset for a minute:” …And I didn’t stand a chance – I got sucked right in.
What you are about to read is that post.
Questions direct focus; focus directs actions; actions direct life.
The process works like this: A question gets asked, a void is created, and the mind – like a vacuum – works to fill that void with an answer almost instantaneously. So the opportunity is this: Start asking yourself better questions and you can immediately start getting better answers.
Ask yourself bad questions; get bad answers; take bad actions (or no actions); have a, well, bad life.
Ask yourself powerful questions; get powerful answers; take powerful actions; have a powerful life!
Lame questions beget lame answers; Extraordinary questions beget extraordinary answers.
Before you dismiss this idea as being all too simple, let’s dig a little deeper.
How exactly do questions direct focus?
Questions can help us obtain a deeper understanding of ourselves and the world we live in when crafted and reflected upon correctly.
Poorly crafted, rash questions will result in lame answers. Superiorly crafted, provocative questions will result in insightful answers.
The quality of the question changes everything.
The process works like this:
…A question gets asked, a void is created, and the mind – like a vacuum – works to fill that void with an answer almost instantaneously. Continue reading