“If the situation or problem is such that it can be remedied, then there is no need to worry about it. In other words, if there is a solution or a way out of the difficulty, then one needn’t be overwhelmed by it. The appropriate action is to seek its solution. It is more sensible to spend the energy focusing on the solution rather than worrying about the problem. Alternatively, if there is no way out, no solution, no possibility of resolution, then there is also no point in being worried about it, because you can’t do anything about it anyway. In that case, the sooner you accept this fact, the easier it will be on you.” ~ Dalai Lama, The Art of Happiness
“It seems that often when problems arise, our outlook becomes narrow. All of our attention may be focused on worrying about the problem, and we may have a sense that we’re the only one that is going through such difficulties. This can lead to a kind of self-absorption that can make the problem seem very intense. When this happens, I think that seeing things from a wider perspective can definitely help – realizing, for instance, that there are many other people who have gone through similar experiences, and even worse experiences. If you focus too closely, too intensely, on a problem when it occurs, it appears uncontrollable. But if you compare that event with some other greater event, look at the same problem from a distance, then it appears smaller and less overwhelming.” ~ Dalai Lama, The Art of Happiness
“The main way you generate bodily tension is by turning your attention back on yourself in self-concern, curling into yourself so tightly you feel all knotted up. Therefore, the main cure is to give yourself to others. Whenever you notice that you are mulling over your own problems, knotting energy into your body as tension, take that energy and create a gift for others. It could be as simple as doing the dishes in the sink, or as complex as building a business that will benefit others. Convert into service the energy that is knotting up the front of your body. Your tension is only the energy of a gift that has become backed up, unexpressed, in your body.” ~ David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man
A few weeks ago I wrote an article about my Smart Alarm App and how it revolutionized my morning.
Before I go to bed every night, while setting my smart alarm, it asks me to check off whether or not my day consisted of the following:
- Drank Coffee
- Drank Tea
- Ate Late
- Worked Out
- Stressful Day
I always found the last question to be interesting.
…Was today a, ‘stressful day?’
Whether or not I drank coffee or tea, ate late, or worked out was an obvious, black-and-white, yes-or-no answer.
“If we would just slow down, happiness would catch up to us.” ~ Richard Carlson
Sometimes we get so caught up with to-do lists, take action lists, incoming calls, outgoing texts, filled inboxes, etc., etc., etc., that our life feels like a non-stop, crazy, stressful, mess!
By adding breaks to your schedule, you give your mind an opportunity to settle, clear, unwind, and recharge – so that when you get back to your day, you are able to perform at your best.
I like to think there are three different kinds of breaks that you can add to your day: punctuation breaks, paragraph breaks, and paper breaks. Continue reading
When you have 1,001 things to do and not nearly enough time to do all of it – it’s very easy to lose your cool, your center, and (resultantly) your mind.
We see it everyday: people running around like chickens with their heads cut off, reacting to every thought that pops up in their mind and every demand that their inbox and cell phone urge while successfully stressing themselves out to the max throughout the process.
First and foremost understand this, your work will never be done.
Now, repeat after me: My work will never be done.
Once you accept this, having e-mails left in your inbox and more work that needs to be handled isn’t such a stressful thought.
Because here’s the deal: Continue reading
“Many people try to avoid pressure, yet the absence of any tension or pressure usually creates a sense of boredom and the lackluster experience of life that so many people complain about.” ~ Anthony Robbins, Awaken the Giant Within
A short story about letting go of your stresses.
A psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they’d be asked the “half empty or half full” question. Instead, with a smile on her face, she inquired: “How heavy is this glass of water?”
Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz. Continue reading
…And don’t forget #11: Take action in managing the source of the stress. Do what you know you gotta do. 🙂