We live in very interesting and unique times for love. Never before have we had such overwhelming access to other humans from all across the world. Before the connection revolution with the internet, smart phones, and social media — relationships started from real life interactions with people that were within your immediate community which gave you a handful of potential mates that you could focus on. Anyone and everyone who lived beyond a few blocks of you might as well have been on a different planet—you never crossed paths. Now, the number of potential mates that we have access to has jumped exponentially from a handful to (quite literally) millions.
Social media seems to have developed a stigma, especially with certain folks, that it’s purely distractive and purely a waste of time.
…I admit that I’ve taken that stance before, but now I see that social media is not purely distractive or a waste of time, but rather is purely what you make it.
It’s a platform.
…Just like the raised surface that a person uses when they are trying to communicate an idea to an audience.
A person can stand up on a platform and say boring, irrelevant, energy draining things – or they can stand up and say exciting, interesting, action-oriented things.
It’s up to the person on the platform to choose what they want to say and it’s up to the audience to give them feedback as to whether or not they want to hear more or less of that in the future.
Give a person an audience and they will continue to say more of what captivated that audience. Take the audience away and they will quickly seek to change their presentation.
Stop Being Busy and Start Being Productive. It’s the Meaningful Work – Not the Busywork – That Counts.
In a world of infinite information and endless distractions it’s incredibly easy to invest time in ways that aren’t productive or meaningful for our lives.
We get caught up checking our Facebooks for notifications, our Twitters for Tweets, our e-mails for more e-mails… We scroll through Tumblr and Pinterest for pictures and content on walls that never end… Heck! Every social media network now has walls of updates that never end!
If we wanted to, we could stay ‘busy‘ all day and get no meaningful work done.
Moreover, because busywork is more prominent now than ever before, we could also never be done with our work if we wanted.
Seth Godin elaborates: “Before, when your shift was done, you were finished. When the in-box was empty, when the forms were processed, you could stop. Now, of course, there’s always one more tweet to make, one more post to write, one more words with friends move to complete. There’s one more e-mail message you can write, one more lens you can construct, one more comment you can respond to. If you want to, you can be never finished.”
I’m afraid to admit that, before I worked up the willpower to open up this page and start writing this blog post, I spent around 25 minutes procrastinating and doing busywork myself…
I interacted with my Facebook timeline for 10 minutes, opened up my e-mail for a quick glance and acted busy for about 10 minutes there, then went back to Facebook for another 5 minute scroll, and finally opened up this post.
…What’s scary is that this is not uncommon for me and that I easily could have continued scrolling, delaying, and doing busywork for much longer, and would have likely stayed just as entertained throughout. Continue reading
Imagine for a few minutes where you might be if:
- All of the time you have spent watching TV was instead spent reading books…
- All of the time you spent on social media was instead spent volunteering…
- All of the time you spent playing video games was instead spent creating your own website…
Think about what you would do if you could repossess all of the time that you feel may have been wasted and you could, instead, reinvest it into something else – something more… Continue reading
“I don’t care how many friends you have on facebook or how many followers you have on twitter. Those are not actual friends or truly followers. I care about how many people will miss you if you’re not back here again tomorrow.” ~ Seth Godin, The Icarus Deception