“Your journey has molded you for the greater good, and it was exactly what it needed to be. Don’t think that you’ve lost time. It took each and every situation you have encountered to bring you to the now. And now is right on time.” ~ Asha Tyson
“Your life is like a book. The title page is your name, the preface your introductions to the world. The pages are a daily record of your efforts, trials, pleasures, discouragements, and achievements. Day by day your thoughts and acts are being inscribed in your book of life. Hour by hour, the record is being made that must stand for all time. Once the word ‘finish’ must be written, let it then be said of your book that it is a record of noble purpose, generous service, and work well-done.” ~ Grenville Kleiser, Training for Power and Leadership
“The average man does not know what to do with his life, yet wants another one which will last forever.” ~ Anatole France, Nobel Prize-Winning Novelist
“In the end, only three things matter: how much you loved, how gently you lived, and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you.” ~ Buddha
“Who are we, if not measured by our impact on others? That’s who we are! We’re not who we say we are, we’re not who we want to be – we are the sum of the influence and impact that we have, in our lives, on others.” ~ Carl Sagan
“People’s purpose in life is always connected to their giftedness.” ~ John C. Maxwell, Leadership Gold
“I believe success is: Knowing your purpose in life, Growing to your maximum potential, and Sowing seeds that benefit others.” ~ John C. Maxwell, Leadership Gold
“Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced.” ~ Soren Kierkegaard
“Life is a mission, not a career.” ~ Stephen Covey, The 8th Habit
Life After the Death of a Loved One.
Each of us has immeasurable power and capacity to reinvent our lives. In the following story, notice how one grief-stricken women was able to create a new vision of her life:
I was forty-six years old when my husband, Gordon, was diagnosed with cancer. Without hesitation, I took early retirement to be with him. Although his death eighteen months later was expected, my grief consumed me. I sorrowed over our dreams unfulfilled. I was only forty-eight and had no reason to live.
My overarching question through my sorrow was, Why did God take Gordon and not me? I felt Gordon had so much more to offer the world than I had. With my body, mind and spirit fatigued beyond measure, I was motivated to find new meaning in my life.
I grabbed on to the idea that all things are created twice, first mentally and then physically. I had to ask my self what talents I had. An aptitude assessment test clarified for me what my strongest abilities were. To create a sense of balance in my life, I focused on the four parts of my nature. On an intellectual level, I realized that I loved to teach; spiritually and socially, I wanted to continue to support the racial harmony we had endeavored to create in our biracial marriage; emotionally, I knew I needed to give love. When my mother was alive she would rock critically ill babies in the hospital. I wanted to give comfort as she had and continue her legacy of unconditional love.
I was afraid to fail, but I told myself it would be okay to try different things, like trying on hats. If I didn’t like teaching after a semester, I didn’t have to go back. I began by going to graduate school so I could teach on the college level. Graduate school is hard, but at age forty-eight, it was especially tough! I was so used to passing documents off to my secretary to type, it took me a semester just to learn how to type my own papers. Turning off the TV and returning the cable box were acts of sheer will.
I completed graduate school and began teaching at a historically black college in Little Rock, Arkansas. I was appointed by the governor to serve on the Martin Luther King Commission to improve racial relations. I rock crack babies and AIDS infants who are hooked up to ventilators, for however short a period of time they have. I know I’m giving comfort, and that gives me a sense of peace.
Now my life is good. I can feel Gordon smiling at me. He told me time and time again before he died that he wanted me to have a life full of laughter, happy memories and good things. How could I waste my life, with that directive on my conscience? I don’t think I could. I have an obligation to live my life the best I can for the people I love the most – whether they are here or on the other side.
“When you are inspired by some great purpose, some extraordinary project, all your thoughts break their bounds. Your mind transcends limitations, your consciousness expands in every direction, and you find yourself in a new, great and wonderful world.” ~ The Yoga Sutras of Patanjali
“When you walk with purpose, you collide with destiny.” ~ Bertice Berry
“I think when people say they dread going into work on Monday morning, it’s because they know they are leaving a piece of themselves at home. Why not see what happens when you challenge your employees to bring all of their talents to their job and reward them not for doing it just like everyone else, but for pushing the envelope, being adventurous, creative, and open-minded, and trying new things?” ~ Tony Hsieh, Delivering Happiness
“Love is eternal – the aspect may change, but not the essence. There is the same difference in a person before and after he is in love as there is in an unlighted lamp and one that is burning. The lamp was there and was a good lamp, but now it is shedding light too, and that is its real function. And love makes one calmer about many things, and that way, one is more fit for one’s work.” ~ Vincent Van Gogh