Power of Words
If you had to boil down your life’s guiding principles to two sentences… What would they be?
…Only two sentences? …To guide you through life?
…Tough. I know.
Well, during a conversation with one of my students, Aaron, I discovered two sentences that were intricately tied to how he lived his life which impacted me deeply and compelled me to investigate further.
These two sentences came from one of Aaron’s mentors, Melvin Scott—a man he crossed paths with at a gym when he was a young teenager.
The influence Melvin had on Aaron and the impact those two sentences have had on his life ever since is unquestionable and speaks to the power of two key principles: Continue reading
“You are what you think about all day long. You are also what you say to yourself all day long. If you say that you are old and tired, this mantra will be manifested in your external reality. If you say you are weak and lack enthusiasm, this too will be the nature of your world. But if you say that you are healthy, dynamic and fully alive, your life will be transformed. You see, the words you say to yourself affect your self-image and your self-image determines what actions you take. Your self-image is a self-fulfilling prophecy of sorts.” ~ Robin S. Sharma, The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari
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Words hold the power to destroy, but they also hold the power to create. This is because words do more than define our experiences. In many cases they actually create them.
Help me finish the following phrase: “If you can’t say something nice…”
That’s right: “don’t say anything at all.” Most of us only think of that phrase in terms of how we talk to others. But what about how we talk to ourselves? If we say something nice to ourselves, it can be wonderful, encouraging, uplifting. And if we say something negative or critical or depressing to ourselves, it can be absolutely devastating.
“It’s no coincidence that good words make us feel good and that hurtful or angry words make us feel bad. There is a 100 percent correlation between the words we choose and how we feel.” ~ Sean Stephenson, Get Off Your “But”
“When you write, you lay out a line of words. The line of words is a miner’s pick, a wood-carver’s gouge, a surgeon’s probe. You wield it, and it digs a path you follow. Soon you find yourself deep in new territory.” ~ Annie Dillard
“What you tell yourself on a daily basis is more powerful than you know. Seemingly harmless jokes, over time, turn into seriously destructive beliefs. Our thoughts become our words, our words become our beliefs, our beliefs become our actions, our actions become our habits, and our habits become our realities. So if your favorite joke is that you couldn’t get a date if you demanded one at gunpoint, and you spend every Saturday night alone, perhaps you should come up with a new one-liner.” ~ Jen Sincero, You Are a Badass
“Often people talk about how they feel ‘stuck’ in a situation. You’re never stuck! You may be a little frustrated, you may not have clear answers, but you’re not stuck. The minute you represent the situation to yourself as being stuck, though, that’s exactly how you’ll feel. We must be very careful about the metaphors we allow ourselves to use.” ~ Anthony Robbins, Awaken the Giant Within
“You and I must realize that the English language is filled with words that, in addition to their literal meanings, convey distinct emotional intensity. For example, if you develop a habit of saying you ‘hate’ things – you ‘hate’ your hair; you ‘hate’ your job; you ‘hate’ having to do something – do you think this raises the intensity of your negative emotional states more than if you use a phrase like ‘I prefer something else’?” ~ Anthony Robbins, Awaken the Giant Within
“People with an impoverished vocabulary live an impoverished emotional life; people with rich vocabularies have a multihued palette of colors with which to paint their experience, not only for others, but for themselves as well.” ~ Anthony Robbins, Awaken the Giant Within
“Throughout human history, our greatest leaders and thinkers have used the power of words to transform our emotions, to enlist us in their causes, and to shape the course of destiny. Words can not only create emotions, they create actions. And from our actions flow the results of our lives.” ~ Anthony Robbins, Awaken the Giant Within
“The word is the most powerful tool you have as a human; it is the tool of magic. But like a sword with two edges, your word can create the most beautiful dream, or your word can destroy everything around you. One edge is the misuse of the word, which creates a living hell. The other edge is the impeccability of the word, which will only create beauty, love and heaven on earth.” ~ don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements