Ah, complacency… The silent killer of our big dreams and ambitions. When we’re complacent, we’re comfortable—and when we’re comfortable, we’re uncritical about ourselves and the path that we’ve chosen which takes the fire and fuel out of trying to grow and develop as a person. Seeking new knowledge, trying new things, taking calculated risks—these are all essential elements to unleashing our personal best and those things simply don’t happen when we’re uncritical / indifferent about where we are.
“It doesn’t matter where you stand in relation to your friends, your family, your colleagues, or clients. All that matters is your personal journey. It’s tempting to look at others as a yardstick and convince yourself that you’re all the way out in front, with the appearance of a lead, or resign yourself to the back of the pack. But that’s not the point. The race of life is a marathon, not a sprint. The only thing to do is focus on the path in front of you. Look ahead. Establish your own pace. Keep moving forward. And then create that plan.” ~ Tony Robbins, Money: Master the Game
“The best way to get a result, the fastest way, is to find someone who has already accomplished what you’re after, and model his or her behavior. If you know someone who used to be overweight but has kept himself fit and healthy for a decade, model that person! You have a friend who used to be miserable in her relationship and now is passionate and in love for ten years going? Model her. You meet someone who started with nothing and has developed wealth and sustained it through time? Learn from those strategies! These people aren’t lucky. They’re simply doing something different than you are in this area of life.” ~ Tony Robbins, Money: Master the Game
Jonathan Fields is a warm soul. He inspires possibility by producing rich and in-depth media that is shared all across the world. I first got to know Jonathan through his education venture, Good Life Project where he and his team lead a global community in the quest to live more meaningful, connected and vital lives. They produce a top-rated podcast and video-series with millions of listens and views in more than 150 countries, where Jonathan regularly shares conversations with the world’s leading voices, like Sir Ken Robinson, Elizabeth Gilbert, Milton Glaser, Brene Brown, Gretchen Rubin and hundreds more.
“Yes, there are problems, I agree. There are great problems. Life is such a hell. Misery is there, poverty is there, violence is there, all kinds of madnesses are afloat, that’s true—but still, I insist the problem arises in the individual soul. The problem is there because individuals are in chaos. The total chaos is nothing but a combined phenomenon: we have all poured our chaos into it. The world is nothing but a relationship; we are related with each other. If I am neurotic and you are neurotic, then the relationship will be even more neurotic—it is multiplied, not just doubled. And everybody is neurotic; hence, the world is neurotic. The beginning has to be with you: You are the ‘world problem.’ So don’t avoid the reality of your inner world—that is the first thing.” ~ Osho, Fame, Fortune, and Ambition
“There are many paths to mastery, and if you are persistent you will certainly find one that suits you. But a key component in the process is determining your mental and psychological strengths and working with them. To rise to the level of mastery requires many hours of dedicated focus and practice. You cannot get there if your work brings you no joy and you are constantly struggling to overcome your own weaknesses. You must look deep within and come to an understanding of these particular strengths and weaknesses you possess, being as realistic as possible. Knowing your strengths, you can lean on them with utmost intensity. Once you start in this direction, you will gain momentum. You will not be burdened by conventions, and you will not be slowed down by having to deal with skills that go against your inclinations and strengths. In this way, your creative and intuitive powers will be naturally awakened.” ~ Robert Greene, Mastery
Giving advice is easy; most everybody does it. Following advice is not so easy; tricky at best. Watching out for these 3 things will help you sort through the good vs the bad advice.
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When we’re given good advice and it moves us to take good actions—we’ll get good results. When we’re given bad advice, sometimes that will lead us to take bad actions (and get bad results that we can learn from), and sometimes it will stop us from moving at all.
When sorting through advice for the good vs. the bad, you should always remember that advice is only as good as the actions it inspires you to take. It’s better to have taken a bad action that you can learn from and keep moving forward with, than to not have taken any action at all. And at the other end, really great advice that you do nothing about is just as good as no advice at all—action is always the difference maker.
When it comes to success, there will ALWAYS be a struggle in some way, shape, or form and we should drop the notion of living a struggle-free life—it simply won’t happen. So, what’s the solution then?
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Introduction: No sugar-coating here.
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson is a book that cuts right to the chase. In his own words he says, “Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it.” And while it may sound like a grim and negative perspective on life, his advice is actually quite practical and direct and can help you turn your life around in less time than a lot of the, “sugar-coated” products available on the market today.
When it comes to success, Manson’s stance is that there will ALWAYS be a struggle in some way, shape, or form and that you should drop the notion of having a struggle-free career or living a struggle-free life—it simply won’t happen. Moreover, it would lead to a boring existence! Problems force us to think outside of our comfort zones and challenge us to grow to stronger mental, physical, and spiritual states. The same way our bodies become stronger when challenged with resistance training and conditioning, so too does our mind and spirit become stronger with problem solving and critical thinking. The trick, Manson suggests, is to find the problems and struggles worth challenging yourself over—the ones you actually enjoy sitting with and working to solve.