We live in very interesting and unique times for love. Never before have we had such overwhelming access to other humans from all across the world. Before the connection revolution with the internet, smart phones, and social media — relationships started from real life interactions with people that were within your immediate community which gave you a handful of potential mates that you could focus on. Anyone and everyone who lived beyond a few blocks of you might as well have been on a different planet—you never crossed paths. Now, the number of potential mates that we have access to has jumped exponentially from a handful to (quite literally) millions.
“Marriage was an economic institution in which you were given a partnership for life in terms of children and social status and succession and companionship. but now we want our partner to still give us all these things, but in addition I want you to be my best friend and my trusted confidant and my passionate lover to boot, and we live twice as long. So we come to one person, and we basically are asking them to give us what once an entire village used to provide: Give me belonging, give me identity, give me continuity, but give me transcendence and mystery and awe all in one. Give me comfort, give me edge. Give me novelty, give me familiarity. Give me predictability, give me surprise. And we think it’s a given, and toys and lingerie are going to save us with that.” ~ Esther Perel, via Modern Romance