Mastery of Love

Are You Starving For Love or Radiating Love in Abundance? The Story of The Magical Kitchen.

The Magical Kitchen

The following is an excerpt from The Mastery of Love by don Miguel Ruiz.  In it, you will find a powerful analogy that will help you better understand your capacity for love and how relationships can squander love if you’re not careful.  We hope it helps!  Enjoy 🙂


Imagine that you have a magical kitchen in your home.  In that magical kitchen, you can have any food you want from any place in the world in any quantity.  You never worry about what to eat; whatever you wish for, you can have at your table.  You are very generous with your food; you give your food unconditionally to others, not because you want something in return from them.  Whoever comes to your home, you feed just for the pleasure of sharing your food, and your house is always full of people who come to eat the food from your magical kitchen.

Then one day someone knocks at your door, and it’s a person with a pizza.  You open the door, and the person looks at you and says, “Hey, do you see this pizza?  I’ll give you this pizza if you let me control your life, if you just do whatever I want you to do.  You are never going to starve because I can bring pizza every day.  You just have to be good to me.”

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So, You Want the Perfect Relationship? Brace Yourself… Because Your Dog is About to School You.

The Perfect Relationship

Imagine a perfect relationship.  You are always intensely happy with your partner because you live with the perfect woman or man for you.  How would you describe your life with this person?

Well, the way you relate with this person will be exactly the way you relate with a dog.  A dog is a dog.  It doesn’t matter what you do, it’s going to be a dog.  You are not going to change a dog for a cat or a dog for a horse; it is what it is.

Just accepting this fact in your relations with other humans is very important.  You cannot change other people.  You love them the way they are or you don’t.  You accept them the way they are or you don’t.  To try to change them to fit what you want them to be is like trying to change a dog for a cat, or a cat for a horse.  That is a fact.  They are what they are; you are what you are.  You dance or you don’t dance.  You need to be completely honest with yourself—to say what you want, and see if you are willing to dance or not.  You must understand this point, because it is very important.  When you truly understand, you are likely to see what is true about others, and not just what you want to see.

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The Mastery of Love

The Mastery of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz

By: Don Miguel Ruiz

Book Overview: In The Mastery of Love, Don Miguel Ruiz illuminates the fear-based beliefs and assumptions that undermine love and lead to suffering and drama in our relationships.  Using insightful stories to bring his message to life, Ruiz shows us how to heal our emotional wounds, recover the freedom and joy that are our birthright, and restore the spirit of playfulness that is vital to loving relationships.

Post(s) Inspired by this Book: Emotional Poison in Relationships — What It Is and How To Stop The Cycle. /// So, You Want the Perfect Relationship? Brace Yourself… Because Your Dog is About to School You.  /// How To Improve the Quality of Your Relationships – Lessons Learned from… Dogs. [VIDEO]  /// Are You Starving For Love or Radiating Love in Abundance? The Story of The Magical Kitchen.

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“You must forgive those who hurt you, even if whatever they did to you is unforgivable in your mind.  You will forgive them not because they deserve to be forgiven, but because you don’t want to suffer and hurt yourself every time you remember what they did to you.  It doesn’t matter what others did to you, you are going to forgive them because you don’t want to feel sick all the time.  Forgiveness is for your own mental healing.  You will forgive because you feel compassion for yourself.  Forgiveness is an act of self-love.” ~ Don Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love

“You don’t have to believe me, but think, and make choices.  Believe what you want to believe according to what I say, but only if it makes sense for you, if it makes you happy.  If it guides you into your awakening, then make the choice to believe it.  I am responsible for what I say, but I am not responsible for what you understand.  We live in a completely different dream.  What I say, even if it is absolutely true for me, is not necessarily true for you.” ~ Don Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love

“When you make it your goal to create the perfect relationship between you and your body, you are learning to have a perfect relationship with anyone you are with, including your mother, your friends, your lover, your children, your dog.  When you have the perfect relationship between you and your body, in that moment your half of any relationship outside you is completely fulfilled.  You no longer depend upon the success of a relationship from the outside.” ~ Don Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love

“You are what you believe you are.  There is nothing to do except to be just what you are.  You have the right to feel beautiful and enjoy it.  You can honor your body and accept it as it is.  You don’t need anyone to love you.  Love comes from the inside.  It lives inside us and is always there, but with that wall of fog, we don’t feel it.  You can only perceive the beauty that lives outside you when you feel the beauty that lives inside you.” ~ Don Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love

“Explore the possibilities.  Be yourself.  Find a person who matches with you.  Take the risk, but be honest.  If it works, keep going.  If it doesn’t work, then do yourself and your partner a favor: Walk away; let her go.  Don’t be selfish.  Give your partner the opportunity to find what she really wants, and at the same time give yourself the opportunity.  If it’s not going to work, it is better to look in a different direction.  If you cannot love your partner the way she is, someone else can love her just as she is.  Don’t wast your time, and don’t waste your partner’s time.  That is respect.” ~ Don Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love

“To master a relationship is all about you.  The first step is to become aware, to know that everyone dreams his own dream.  Once you know this, you can be responsible for your half of the relationship, which is you.  If you know that you are only responsible for half of the relationship, you can easily control your half.  It is not up to us to control the other half.  If we respect, we know that our partner, or friend, or son, or mother, is completely responsible for his or her own half.  If we respect the other half, there is always going to be peace in that relationship.  There is no war.” ~ Don Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love

“The happiest moments in our lives are when we are playing just like children, when we are singing and dancing, when we are exploring and creating just for fun.  It is wonderful when we behave like a child because this is the normal human mind, the normal human tendency.  As children, we are innocent and it is natural for us to express love.  But what has happened to us?  What has happened to the whole world?” ~ Don Miguel Ruiz, The Mastery of Love

 

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