“Someone who speaks badly to us may have been spoken to in exactly the same way just the day before, or by his alcoholic father when he was a child. When we see and understand these kinds of causes, we can begin to be free from our anger. I am not saying that someone who viciously attacks us should not be disciplined. But what is most important is that we first take care of the seeds of negativity in ourselves. Then if someone needs to be helped or disciplined, we will do so out of compassion, not anger and retribution. If we genuinely try to understand the suffering of another person, we are more likely to act in a way that will help him overcome his suffering and confusion, and that will help all of us.” ~ Thich Nhat Hanh, Peace is Every Step
“It’s silly to worry about what others might be saying and thinking about you. Whatever they’re saying, it’s not really about you – it’s about them. In fact, what people say or think about you is a direct reflection of what they may be feeling about themselves. Don’t even think about it. If you want something to concentrate on, concentrate on treating yourself with more respect.” ~ Sean Stephenson, Get Off Your “But”
…And how to stop self limiting beliefs so that you may start experiencing more freedom, happiness, and love.
Based on ancient Toltec wisdom, Don Miguel Ruiz presents the readers with a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform lives for the better – The Four Agreements.
With all of the innumerable media influences, peer pressures, and conformity institutions, it’s far too easy to forget who we are, lose touch with your root being, and become a product of the toxic environment from which many of us live.
Ruiz shows us how to take our life back.
Each agreement focuses on the idea of developing yourself first and training your mind so that you may see the world in new a light and resultantly interact with it in a more optimal, honest, and fulfilling way.
Below is a summery of each of The Four Agreements followed by our Top 10 Quotes list derived from the book. Take note of any quote that makes you think and leave us some of your thoughts (or favorite quotes from the book) in the comments section below! Enjoy! Continue reading
“What other people think about you has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.” ~ Jen Sincero, You Are a Badass
“Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves. All people live in their own dream, in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one we live in. When we take something personally, we make the assumption that they know what is in our world, and we try to impose our world on their world. Even when a situation seems so personal, even if others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you. What they say, what they do, and the opinions they give are according to the agreements that they have in their own minds.” ~ Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements
“Gossiping has become the main form of communication in human society. It has become the way we feel close to each other, because it makes us feel better to see someone else feel as badly as we do. There is an old expression that says, ‘Misery likes company,’ and people who are suffering in hell don’t want to be all alone.” ~ Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements
“If anyone should tell you that a particular person has spoken critically of you, don’t bother with excuses or defenses. Just smile and reply, “I guess that person doesn’t know about all my other faults. Otherwise, he wouldn’t have mentioned only these.” ~ Epictetus, The Art of Living
“Be careful whom you associate with. It is human to imitate the habits of those with whom we interact. We inadvertently adopt their interests, their opinions, their values, and their habit of interpreting events.” ~ Epictetus, The Art of Living
“It is not a demonstration of kindness or friendship to the people we care about to join them in indulging in wrongheaded, negative feelings. We do a better service to ourselves and others by remaining detached and avoiding melodramatic reactions.” ~ Epictetus, The Art of Living
“Obsessive thinking can do far more harm than good and never actually causes any change. Once you start feeling more present, you’ll take less joy in feeding the mental drama around the situation and naturally be less willing to put up with negativity it brings.” ~ Chantal Houde, Tiny Buddha