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Introduction: Why is the ego the enemy?
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The ego is the sense we have of our self-esteem and our self-worth. When it comes to moving forward in life, Ryan Holiday, author of Ego is the Enemy argues that both in success and in failure, ego only gets in the way and holds us back. The time we spend in our own heads comparing ourselves to others and measuring our esteem is time that is distracted from the real work we could be doing—the work of producing our art and cultivating our life’s task.
“Who wouldn’t want to write a best-selling book or lose weight or earn more money? Everybody wants to achieve these goals. The real challenge is not determining if you want the result, but if you are willing to accept the sacrifices required to achieve your goal. Do you want the lifestyle that comes with your quest? Do you want the boring and ugly process that comes before the exciting and glamorous outcome?” ~ James Clear, Blog
“How often do you step back and reflect on where you are headed? Would less or more self-reflection be good for you? …Do you have any specific long-term goals? If so, which is the most important, how do you hope to reach it, and how do you think reaching it will enhance your life?” ~ Gregory Stock, The Book of Questions
“You will never be able to hit a target that you cannot see. People spend their whole lives dreaming of becoming happier, living with more vitality and having an abundance of passion. Yet they do not see the importance of taking even ten minutes a month to write out their goals and to think deeply about the meaning of their lives, their Dharma. Goal setting will make your life magnificent. Your world will become richer, more delightful and more magical.” ~ Robin S. Sharma, The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari
One of my goals in 2016 was to read 50 books.
…I had the same goal set for my New Year’s resolution in 2014 and 2015 and fell short both years.
After I fell short in 2014 by reading 32 books, I felt my competitive side coming out and I distinctly remember feeling an increase in motivation going into 2015.
I consider myself to be a pretty competitive person and the fact that I was feeling motivated from the start of the new year and driven to beat my personal best left me feeling quite confident.
When I finished 2015, not only did I fall short of my goal of 50 books but I fell short on the number of books I read in 2014 – reading 30 books.
…That’s when I knew I had to take a deeper look because otherwise 2016 would be nothing more than a repeat.
By: Jen Sincero
Book Overview: In this refreshingly entertaining how-to guide, #1 New York Times Bestselling Author and world-traveling success coach, Jen Sincero, serves up 27 bite-sized chapters full of hilariously inspiring stories, sage advice, easy exercises, and the occasional swear word. If you’re ready to make some serious changes around here, You Are a Badass will help you: Identify and change the self-sabotaging beliefs and behaviors that stop you from getting what you want, blast past your fears so you can take big exciting risks, figure out how to make some damn money already, learn to love yourself and others, set big goals and reach them – it will basically show you how to create a life you totally love, and how to create it NOW.
“The most important rules that I ever adopted to help me in achieving my goals were those I learned from a very successful man who taught me to first write down the goal, and then to never leave the site of setting a goal without first taking some form of positive action toward its attainment.” ~ Anthony Robbins, Awaken the Giant Within
“No one ever achieved a goal by being interested in its achievement. One must be committed. In fact, in studying the source of people’s success, I’ve found that persistence overshadows even talent as the most valued and effective resource in creating and shaping the quality of life. Most people give up a maddening five feet from their goal!” ~ Anthony Robbins, Awaken the Giant Within
“All goal setting must be immediately followed by both the development of a plan, and massive and consistent action toward its fulfillment.” ~ Anthony Robbins, Awaken the Giant Within
“We’ve got to remember that we get whatever we focus on in life. If we keep focusing on what we don’t want, we’ll have more of it. The first step to creating any change is deciding what you do want so that you have something to move toward.” ~ Anthony Robbins, Awaken the Giant Within
…Or a day when you really won’t feel like writing or doing your work?
…Or a day when instead of reading that book you’re going to want to watch TV, check Facebook, read e-mail, or do pretty much anything else, right?
I think we have all been there before and are very familiar with the feelings of laziness, procrastination, and boredom.
So why not plan ahead for those days, now, so that when you’re feeling low, like procrastinating, and/or bored you have a plan?
Sounds like a successful initiative to me. Continue reading
“Having a mental snapshot of where you are, where you are going, and what you are moving toward is incredibly powerful.” ~ Sara Blakely
“When you’re trying to motivate yourself, appreciate the fact that you’re even thinking about making a change. And as you move forward, allow yourself to be good enough.” ~ Alice Domar