Emotional Intelligence

“In our culture we tend to equate thinking and intellectual powers with success and achievement.  In many ways, however, it is an emotional quality that separates those who master a field from the many who simply work at a job.  Our levels of desire, patience, persistence, and confidence end up playing a much larger role in success than sheer reasoning powers.  Feeling motivated and energized, we can overcome almost anything.  Feeling bored and restless, our minds shut off and we become increasingly passive.” ~ Robert Greene, Mastery

Pillow Punching – Good or Bad for Anger Management?

Pillow Punching - Good or Bad for Anger Management?

While pillow punching might seem like a good idea for, “letting off steam” and managing anger, hitting things while angry actually tends to have the opposite effect.

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Expressing anger is not always the best way to deal with it.  In expressing anger we might be practicing or rehearsing it, and making it stronger in the depth of our consciousness.  Expressing anger to the person we are angry at can cause a lot of damage.

Some of us may prefer to go into our room, lock the door, and punch a pillow.  We call this “getting in touch with our anger.”  But I don’t think this is getting in touch with our anger at all.  In fact, I don’t think it is even getting in touch with our pillow.

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“Denying negative emotions leads to experiencing deeper and more prolonged negative emotions and to emotional dysfunction.  Constant positivity is a form of avoidance, not a valid solution to life’s problems—problems which, by the way, if you’re choosing the right values and metrics, should be invigorating you and motivating you.” ~ Mark Mason, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

How to Handle Anger – A Mindfulness Exercise from Thich Nhat Hanh

How to Handle Anger

Learning how to handle anger is a crucial skill not only for managing relationships with others, but for managing the relationship you have with yourself as well.  

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Anger is an unpleasant feeling.  It is like a blazing flame that burns up our self-control and causes us to say and do things that we regret later.  When someone is angry, we can see clearly that he or she is abiding in hell.  Anger and hatred are the materials from which hell is made.  A mind without anger is cool, fresh, and sane.  The absence of anger is the basis of real happiness, the basis of love and compassion.

When our anger is placed under the lamp of mindfulness, it immediately begins to lose some of its destructive nature.  We can say to ourselves, “Breathing in, I know that anger is in me.  Breathing out, I know that I am my anger.”  If we follow our breathing closely while we identify and mindfully observe our anger, it can no longer monopolize our consciousness.

Awareness can be called upon to be a companion for our anger.  Our awareness of our anger does not suppress it or drive it out.  It just looks after it.  This is a very important principle.  Mindfulness is not a judge.  It is more like an older sister looking after and comforting her younger sister in an affectionate and caring way.  We can concentrate on our breathing in order to maintain this mindfulness and know ourselves fully.

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“When it comes down to it, if you feel crappy it’s because your brain is telling you that there’s a problem that’s unaddressed or unresolved.  In other words, negative emotions are a call to action.  When you feel them, it’s because you’re supposed to do something.  Positive emotions, on the other hand, are rewards for taking the proper action.  When you feel them,  life seems simple and there is nothing else to do but enjoy it.  Then, like everything else, the positive emotions go away, because more problems inevitably emerge.” ~ Mark Mason, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

 

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