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“We often ask, ‘What’s wrong?’ Doing so, we invite painful seeds of sorrow to come up and manifest.  We feel suffering, anger, and depression, and produce more such seeds.  We would be much happier if we tried to stay in touch with the healthy, joyful seeds inside of us and around us.  We should learn to ask, ‘What’s not wrong?’ and be in touch with that.  There are so many elements in the world and within our bodies, feelings, perceptions, and consciousness that are wholesome, refreshing, and healing.  If we block ourselves, if we stay in the prison of our sorrow, we will not be in touch with these healing elements.” ~ Thich Nhat Hanh, Peace is Every Step

Emotional Poison in Relationships — What It Is and How To Stop The Cycle.

Emotional Poison in Relationships. What It Is and How To Stop The Cycle.

Emotional poison is created by our reaction to what we consider injustice.  Some wounds will heal, others will become infected with more and more poison.  Once we are full of emotional poison, we have the need to release it, and we practice releasing the poison by sending it to someone else.  How do we do this?  By hooking that person’s attention.

Let’s take an example of an ordinary couple.  For whatever reason, the wife is mad.  She has a lot of emotional poison from an injustice that comes from her husband.  The husband is not home, but she remembers that injustice and the poison is growing inside.  When the husband comes home, the first thing she wants to do is hook his attention because once she hooks his attention, all the poison can go to her husband and she can feel the relief.  As soon as she tells him how bad he is, how stupid or unfair he is, that poison she has inside her is transferred to the husband.

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“Almost universally, the traits or behaviors that have pissed us off in other people – their dishonesty, their selfishness, their laziness – are hardly going to work out well for them in the end.  Their ego and shortsightedness contains its own punishment.  The question we must ask ourselves is: Are we going to be miserable just because other people are?” ~ Ryan Holiday, Ego is the Enemy

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