Confidence

“The more you desperately want to be rich, the more poor and unworthy you feel, regardless of how much money you actually make.  The more you desperately want to be sexy and desired, the uglier you come to see yourself, regardless of your actual physical appearance.  The more you desperately want to be happy and loved, the lonelier and more afraid you become, regardless of those who surround you.  The more you want to be spiritually enlightened, the more self-centered and shallow you become in trying to get there.” ~ Mark Mason, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck

“It does not count if you believe in yourself when it’s easy to believe in yourself.  It does not count if you believe the world can be a better place when the future looks bright.  It does not count if you think you’re going to make it when the finish line is right in front of you.  It counts when it’s hard to believe in yourself, when it looks like the world’s going to end and you’ve still got a long way to go.  That’s when it counts.  That’s when it matters the most.” ~ Iain Thomas, I Wrote This For You

“Christians believe that pride is a sin because it is a lie – it convinces people that they are better than they are, that they are better than God made them.  Pride leads to arrogance and then away from humility and connection with their fellow man.  You don’t have to be Christian to see the wisdom in this.  You need only to care about your career to understand that pride – even in real accomplishments – is a distraction and a deluder.” ~ Ryan Holiday, Ego is the Enemy

“A healthy sense of self-confidence is a critical factor in achieving our goals.  This holds true whether our goal is to earn a college degree, build a successful business, enjoy a satisfying relationship, or train the mind to become happier.  Low self-confidence inhibits our efforts to move ahead, to meet challenges, and even to take some risks when necessary in the pursuit of our objectives.  Inflated self-confidence can be equally hazardous.  Those who suffer from an exaggerated sense of their own abilities and accomplishments are continuously subject to frustration, disappointment, and rage when reality intrudes and the world doesn’t validate their idealized view of themselves.  And they are always precariously close to sinking into depression when they fail to live up to their own idealized self-image.  In addition, these individuals’ grandiosity often leads to a sense of entitlement and a kind of arrogance that distances them from others and prevents emotionally satisfying relationships.” ~ Dalai Lama, The Art of Happiness

“Fear is a conditioned response: a life-sucking habit that can easily consume your energy, creativity and spirit if you are not careful.  When fear rears its ugly head, beat it down quickly.  The best way to do that is to do the thing you fear.  Understand the anatomy of fear.  It is your own creation.  Like any other creation, it is just as easy to tear it down as it is to erect it.  Methodically search for and then destroy every fear that has secretly slid into the fortress of your mind.  This alone will give you enormous confidence, happiness and peace of mind.” ~ Robin S. Sharma, The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari

“Parents think they can hand children permanent confidence – like a gift – by praising their brains and talent.  It doesn’t work, and in fact has the opposite effect.  It makes children doubt themselves as soon as anything is hard or anything goes wrong.  If parents want to give their children a gift the best thing they can do is to teach their children to love challenges, be intrigued by mistakes, enjoy effort, and keep on learning.  That way, their children don’t have to be slaves of praise.  They will have a lifelong way to build and repair their own confidence.” ~ Carol Dweck, Mindset

Increase Your Results by Expecting to Win.

In our own lives, having a mind-set of expecting to win increases our odds of winning.  It helps us get better results.  And better results help us increase our credibility and self-confidence, which leads to more positive self-expectancy, and more winning – and the upward cycle continues.  It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

As Harvard Business School professor and writer Rosabeth Moss Kanter has observed, “Confidence consists of positive expectations for favorable outcomes… winning begets winning, because it produces confidence at four levels.”  The first of those levels, she says, is “self-confidence: an emotional climate of high expectations.”  The second level is “confidence in one another.”

So if you want to increase your results, expect to win – not only for yourself, but also for your team.  Not at all costs, but honorably.  Not at the expense of others, but in conjunction with others.  Expecting to win – and expecting others to win – is a fundamental approach of helping to bring it about.

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Source: The Speed of Trust by Stephen M. R. Covey

“When we’re born, we have an instinctual understanding of some of the most important basics of life that includes, and goes way beyond, bending at our knees, instead of our lower backs, to pick a beer can up off the floor.  We’re born knowing how to trust our instincts, how to breathe deeply, how to eat only when we’re hungry, how to not care about what anyone thinks of our singing voices, dance moves, or hairdos, we know how to play, create, and love without holding back.  Then, as we grow and learn from the people around us, we replace many of these primal understandings with negative false beliefs, fear, shame, and self-doubt.  Then we wind up in emotional and physical pain.  Then we either numb our pain with drugs, sex, booze, TV, Cheetos, etc.  Or we settle for mediocrity.  OR we rise to the occasion, remember how truly mighty we are, and set out to relearn everything we knew at the beginning all over again.” ~ Jen Sincero, You Are a Badass

“One way to develop faith and confidence is simply to practice using it. If I were to ask you whether you’re confident that you can tie your own shoes, I’m sure you could tell me with perfect confidence that you can.  Why?  Only because you’ve done it thousands of times!  So practice confidence by using it consistently, and you’ll be amazed at the dividends it reaps in every area of your life.” ~ Anthony Robbins, Awaken the Giant Within

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