“We hold on to jobs we dislike because we believe there’s security in a paycheck. We stay in shitty relationships because we think there’s security in not being alone. We hold on to stuff we don’t need, just in case we might need it down the road in some nonexistent, more secure future. If such accoutrements are flooding our lives with discontent, they are not secure. In fact, the opposite is true. Discontent is uncertainty. And uncertainty is insecurity. Hence, if you are not happy with your situation, no matter how comfortable it is, you won’t ever feel secure.” ~ The Minimalists, Everything That Remains
“Too often, convinced of our own intelligence, we stay in a comfort zone that ensures that we never feel stupid (and are never challenged to learn or reconsider what we know). It obscures from view various weakness in our understanding, until eventually it’s too late to change course. This is where the silent toll is taken.” ~ Ryan Holiday, Ego is the Enemy
“If you could place yourself anywhere on a scale from 1 to 10, where 1 is having security and comfort and goals within easy reach, and 10 is taking risks, struggling, and reaching for great achievement, what number would you like to be at, and why? …Where are you now?” ~ Gregory Stock, The Book of Questions
By: Jesse Itzler
Book Overview: When Jesse felt himself drifting on autopilot, he hired a rather unconventional trainer to live with him for a month – an accomplished Navy SEAL widely considered to be “the toughest man on the planet”! Jesse is about as easy-going as you can get. SEAL is…not. Jesse and SEAL’s escapades soon produce a great friendship, and by the time SEAL leaves, Jesse is in the best shape of his life, but he gains much more than muscle. At turns hilarious and inspiring, Living with a SEAL ultimately shows you the benefits of stepping out of your comfort zone.
Post(s) Inspired by this Book:
Ever feel like your schedule and routines are controlling you and not the other way around?
…Like you’re stuck in a rut and bored with the daily grind?
Last week I discussed how I ventured to The Albright-Knox Art Gallery in search of inspiration outside of my comfort zone, but what if – in order to break up the monotony / routine of your life – you invited a Navy SEAL to live with you for a month under the agreement that you had to do everything he/she asked you to do, whenever he/she asked you to do it?
…Sounds crazy right?
…Talk about getting pushed outside of your comfort zone!
Well, believe it or not, that’s exactly what Jesse Itzler did. And how he spent his 30 days with a Navy SEAL were documented in his book, Living With A Seal.
When I finished the last few pages, I threw on my running shorts, laced up my sneakers and ran 9 miles, did 100 push-ups, and 30 pull-ups.
…Go ahead and ask me if it was an inspirational book! Continue reading
“If you don’t challenge yourself, you don’t know yourself.” ~ SEAL, Living With A SEAL
“Most of my successes in life have come from learning how to be comfortable with being uncomfortable.” ~ Jesse Itzler, Living With A SEAL
**The following is the speech that I prepared and read for Master Khechen’s 2015 East Coast Championship Banquet on March 12, 2016. While you may not recognize some of the names and context, the underlying message still holds some powerful thoughts and reflections worth sharing with you today. Enjoy!
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Our East Coast Championship Banquet is a time for our Association to reflect on the year in passing.
It gives us an opportunity to pause in our pursuits and to simply enjoy and embrace all that has happened – and all that is here.
One of the most significant events from 2015 was the opening of our brand-new Master Khechen location in Cheektowaga under the leadership of Master Khechen, Mr. Parker, and Mr. Jimenez.
Who, over the course of only a few months of being opened have welcomed over 100 students into the program!
In hindsight, it was a brilliant move on Master Khechen’s behalf to add a fourth location to our Association – but several months ago, when we were venturing into the unknown, unsure of how things would turn out – it felt scary, rash, and questionable.
“By leaning just beyond your fear, you challenge your limits compassionately, without trying to escape the feeling of fear itself. You step beyond the solid ground of security with an open heart. You stand in the space of unknowingness, raw and awake. Here, the gravity of deep being will attend you to the only place where fear is obsolete: the eternal free fall of home. Where you always are. Own your fear, and lean just beyond it. In every aspect of your life. Starting now.” ~ David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man
“In any given moment, a man’s growth is optimized if he leans just beyond his edge, his capacity, his fear. He should not be too lazy, happily stagnating in the zone of security and comfort. Nor should he push far beyond his edge, stressing himself unnecessarily, unable to metabolize his experience. He should lean just slightly beyond the edge of fear and discomfort. Constantly. In everything he does.” ~ David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man
“A free man is free to acknowledge his fears, without hiding them, or hiding from them. Live with your lips pressed against your fears, kissing your fears, neither pulling back nor aggressively violating them.” ~ David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man
“Some men fear the feeling of fear and therefore don’t even approach their edge. They choose a job they know they can do well and easily, and don’t even approach the fullest giving of their gift. Their lives are relatively secure and comfortable, but dead. They lack the aliveness, the depth, and the inspirational energy that is the sign of a man living at his edge. If you are this kind of man who is hanging back, working hard perhaps, but not at your real edge, other men will not be able to trust that you can and will help them live at their edge and give their fullest gift.” ~ David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man