“Our most radical changes in perspective often happen at the tail end of our worst moments. It’s only when we feel intense pain that we’re willing to look at our values and question why they seem to be failing us. We need some sort of existential crisis to take an objective look at how we’ve been deriving meaning in our life, and then consider changing course.” ~ Mark Mason, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck
“We all have values for ourselves. We protect these values. We try to live up to them and we justify them and maintain them. Even if we don’t mean to, that’s how our brain is wired. If I believe I’m a nice guy, I’ll avoid situations that could potentially contradict that belief. If I believe I’m an awesome cook, I’ll seek out opportunities to prove that to myself over and over again. The belief always takes precedence. Until we change how we view ourselves, what we believe we are and are not, we cannot overcome our avoidance and anxiety. We cannot change.” ~ Mark Mason, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck
“I have found that battling despair does not mean closing my eyes to the enormity of the tasks of effecting change, nor ignoring the strength and the barbarity of the forces aligned against us. It means teaching, surviving and fighting with the most important resource I have, myself, and taking joy in that battle. It means, for me, recognizing the enemy outside and the enemy within, and knowing that my work is part of our power, and knowing that this work did not begin with my birth nor will it end with my death. And it means knowing that within this continuum, my life and my love and my work has particular power and meaning relative to others. It means trout fishing on the Missisquoi River at dawn and tasting the green silence, and knowing that this beauty too is mine forever.” ~ Audre Lorde, The Cancer Journals
“You will never meet anyone who has done something great who waited for permission to do something great.” ~ Iain Thomas, I Wrote This For You
Sharing weaknesses is never easy.
It leaves you feeling vulnerable and feeble and the ego absolutely hates that.
The ego only wants to talk about the strengths, the victories, the accomplishments, etc.
…But meaning and fulfillment don’t come from feeding the ego – they come from feeding the soul.
…And it’s time for some soul food.
One of my weaknesses is that I’m exceedingly anti-confrontational.
In order to avoid a conflict, either verbally or physically, I’ll shut down, close my mouth and try and separate myself from the situation as fast as possible.
There have been times when I have chosen to remain silent about things that I believed to be wrong, unjust, or hurtful.
I was the bystander; the watcher; the one who becomes the gas for the fire of hate.
And it kills me inside to know I acted (or didn’t act) this way.
When it comes to making a difference in the world, you’re either a fire type, a water type, or a gas type.
“If you think you’re too small to make a difference, try sleeping with a mosquito.” ~ Dalai Lama, via Life Hack
Sticking to a new diet or exercise regime is one of the biggest challenges people in our society face today.
One of the fundamental reasons why, I believe, is because most people commit to the change with the wrong time frame in mind.
In fact, I believe most people disregard the true timeframe that we should be committing to for any lifestyle change in general.
Let’s get this straight.
Temporary changes lead to temporary results.
Lifestyle changes lead to life-long results.
The fad diets you’ve tried? Temporary changes.
The incredibly intense workout regimes that only lasted a few weeks? Temporary changes.
The underlying principles for many of the fad diets and exercise regimes are sound and make sense but so many of them are incredibly unsustainable and aren’t made to last (for a lifetime).
Yo-yoing up and down and up and down through fad diets and hard workouts is frustrating.
Constant and never ending improvement is motivating.
How do we get there?