“People who study others are wise but those who study themselves are enlightened.” ~ Robin S. Sharma, The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari
By: Daivd Deida
Book Overview: What is your true purpose in life? What do women really want? What makes a good lover? If you’re a man reading this, you’ve undoubtedly asked yourself these questions—but you may not have had much luck answering them. Until now. In The Way of the Superior Man, David Deida explores the most important issues in men’s lives—from career and family to women and intimacy to love and spirituality and relationships—to offer a practical guidebook for living a masculine life of integrity, authenticity, and freedom. Join this bestselling author and internationally renowned expert on sexual spirituality for straightforward advice, empowering skills, body practices, and more to help you realize a life of fulfillment, immediately and without compromise.
“You are entirely responsible for cutting through your own laziness, addictions, and unclarity. There is nothing to wait for and nobody to blame. Whatever techniques are appropriate, use them. Try talking with your friends, using therapy, practicing meditation or prayer, going on a vision quest, reading scripture, walking in nature, keeping a journal, or studying with a teacher. Remember that your success with any method you choose depends entirely on your actual commitment to discovering your deepest truth and aligning your life with it.” ~ David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man
“To help you remember the triviality of your daily tasks, interrupt your schedule with refreshers. These refreshers should cut to your core and strip the fat off the moment. Consider your own death. Behold an image of the most enlightened being you know. Contemplate the mystery of existence. Relax into the deepest and most profound loving of which you are capable. In your own way, remember the infinite, and then return to the task at hand. This way, you will never lose perspective and begin to think that life is a matter of tasks. You are not a drone. You are the unbounded mystery of love. Be so, without forgetting your tasks.” ~ David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man
“When we teach a child to make good decisions, we benefit from a lifetime of good decisions. When we teach a child to love to learn, the amount of learning will become limitless. When we teach a child to deal with a changing world, she will never become obsolete. When we are brave enough to teach a child to question authority, even ours, we insulate ourselves from those who would use their authority to work against each of us. And when we give students the desire to make things, even choices, we create a world filled with makers.” ~ Seth Godin, Whatcha Gonna Do With That Duck?
“When you rise in the morning, greet the day with vigor. During the day, refrain from thinking or saying, ‘I’m confused,’ ‘I’m weak,’ ‘I’m sad,’ ‘I need help.’ At night before you sleep, release all thoughts of sadness, anger, or irritation. Think of pleasant things.” ~ Tempu Nakamura, Budo Secrets
We spend years of our lives – decades even – studying math, science, and history in formal educational settings from the time when we are first learning how to write until the time we graduate college and get our final degree – yet we rarely (if ever) take even a single class on love, relationships, or dealing with our being… Seems a little out of proportion wouldn’t you think?
This is not to say that math, science, or history are not important – each have contributed immensely in their own right – but rather to bring to light the importance of reading, researching and reflecting on the topics of love, relationships, and dealing with your being on your own time. Changing the curricula and priorities of our educational systems is beyond the intent of this post – changing the way you view, “Personal Development” and “Self-Help” books, for example, is an idea and action that is well within our grasps.
Why is it that when it comes to understanding a subject like math, there’s an easy and direct connection – read books, answer challenging questions, and seek help from educators – but when it comes to understanding a subject like “ourselves” there’s only a, “ya-live-and-ya-learn” policy? Continue reading
“Remain continuously on a honeymoon. Go on searching and seeking each other, finding new ways of loving each other, finding new ways of being with each other. And each person is such an infinite mystery, inexhaustible, unfathomable, that it is not possible that you can ever say, ‘I have known her,’ or, ‘I have known him.’ At the most you can say, ‘I have tried my best, but the mystery remains a mystery.’ In fact the more you know, the more mysterious the other becomes. Then love is a constant adventure.” ~ Osho, Love, Freedom, Alonenss: The Koan of Relationships
“It is better to fail at your own dharma than to succeed at the dharma of someone else.” ~ Krisna, Bhagavad Gita
The following was written by Regina Brett, 90 years old, of the Plain Dealer, Cleveland, Ohio.
It’s insight that I couldn’t pass up and a list that I always want to have available for reference.
What I like most about her list is how you can get a sense of Regina’s experience and personality in many of the items and they aren’t all cliché sayings.
Read through her 42 Life Lessons below and let me know which items were your favorite. My top three favorite pieces of advice were… (I’ll share with you when you’re done reading!)
1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short – enjoy it. Continue reading