15 No Bullsh*t Success Quotes from The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck
Introduction: No sugar-coating here.
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson is a book that cuts right to the chase. In his own words he says, “Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it.” And while it may sound like a grim and negative perspective on life, his advice is actually quite practical and direct and can help you turn your life around in less time than a lot of the, “sugar-coated” products available on the market today.
When it comes to success, Manson’s stance is that there will ALWAYS be a struggle in some way, shape, or form and that you should drop the notion of having a struggle-free career or living a struggle-free life—it simply won’t happen. Moreover, it would lead to a boring existence! Problems force us to think outside of our comfort zones and challenge us to grow to stronger mental, physical, and spiritual states. The same way our bodies become stronger when challenged with resistance training and conditioning, so too does our mind and spirit become stronger with problem solving and critical thinking. The trick, Manson suggests, is to find the problems and struggles worth challenging yourself over—the ones you actually enjoy sitting with and working to solve.
And it’s that process of continually solving problems and creatively challenging your mind, body, and spirit that lays the foundation for long-term happiness and success. It’s the same with our health and well being. Sure, eating a sugary desert tastes fantastic and makes you feel good for the few moments that it takes for you to eat it, but it leaves you feeling like crap for a few hours (maybe longer) after it’s gone. The same is true for sugar-coated advice—advice that leads you to avoid the problem and dodge the challenges by distracting your mind with sweet talk, cliché sayings, etc.—without giving you any practical strategies or insight that allows you to actually deal with the issues or challenges that brought you to that advice in the first place.
Long term feel-good comes from working through and solving problem(s) and challenges head on—even if we’re scared, unprepared, or don’t really know what we’re doing. In fact, that’s how we’ll feel most of the time and it’s through that process of critical thinking and problem solving that we build our confidence, become prepared, and start to gather together a sense of what we’re doing. But don’t be fooled—the process doesn’t end. Problems merely get exchanged and/or upgraded and you will have to begin the process anew time and time again for the rest of your life.
This is not to be perceived as a negative thing and shouldn’t put you down. This is the process of unleashing your best version and should EXCITE YOU! …Now that you know the process, all you need to do is begin on a, “sugar-coated-free” path and face those problems and challenges head on. And while you’re solving problems and pursuing your personal version of success, remember that once you have your basic physical needs for survival met (food, clothes, shelter, etc.), all the extra money that so many people sacrifice themselves to get (doing jobs they hate, spending more time working than with family, etc.), has very little impact on overall happiness. Work/ Life balance is more important than money and Manson references his own upbringing in a wealthy family to support that—more on that below.
Without further ado, I will now turn the insight over to Manson himself. Please enjoy our list of 15 no bullsh*t success quotes from The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck below and take special note of any quotes that make you smile, nod, or react in some way—it may be an opportunity for you to take an action step forward! Good luck and don’t forget to drop us some of your thoughts in the comment section below.
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The List: 15 No Bullsh*t Success Quotes from The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck
“Life is about not knowing and then doing something anyway. All of life is like this. It never changes. Even when you’re happy. Even when you’re farting fairy dust. Even when you win the lottery and buy a small fleet of Jet Skis, you still won’t know what the hell you’re doing. Don’t ever forget that. And don’t ever be afraid of that.” ~ Mark Manson
“We all get dealt cards. Some of us get better cards than others. And while it’s easy to get hung up on our cards, and feel we got screwed over, the real game lies in the choices we make with those cards, the risk we decide to take, and the consequences we choose to live with. People who consistently make the best choices in the situations they’re given are the ones who eventually come out ahead in poker, just as in life. And it’s not necessarily the people with the best cards.”~ Mark Manson
“I grew up in a wealthy family. Money was never a problem. On the contrary, I grew up in a wealthy family where money was more often used to avoid problems than solve them. I was again fortunate, because this taught me at an early age that making money, by itself, was a lousy metric for myself. You could make plenty of money and be miserable, just as you could be broke and be pretty happy. Therefore, why use money as a means to measure my self-worth?”~ Mark Manson
“Research shows that once one is able to provide for basic physical needs (food, shelter, and so on), the correlation between happiness and worldly success quickly approaches zero. So if you’re starving and living on the street in the middle of India, an extra ten thousand dollars a year would affect your happiness a lot. But if you’re sitting pretty in the middle class in a developed country, an extra ten thousand dollars per year won’t affect anything much—meaning that you’re killing yourself working overtime and weekends for basically nothing.”~ Mark Manson
“Everything worthwhile in life is won through surmounting the associated negative experience. Any attempt to escape the negative, to avoid it or quash it or silence it, only backfires. The avoidance of suffering is a form of suffering. The avoidance of struggle is a struggle. The denial of failure is a failure. Hiding what is shameful is itself a form of shame.”~ Mark Manson
“Denying negative emotions leads to experiencing deeper and more prolonged negative emotions and to emotional dysfunction. Constant positivity is a form of avoidance, not a valid solution to life’s problems—problems which, by the way, if you’re choosing the right values and metrics, should be invigorating you and motivating you.”~ Mark Manson
“The desire for a more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.”~ Mark Manson
“Our most radical changes in perspective often happen at the tail end of our worst moments. It’s only when we feel intense pain that we’re willing to look at our values and question why they seem to be failing us. We need some sort of existential crisis to take an objective look at how we’ve been deriving meaning in our life, and then consider changing course.”~ Mark Manson
“When it comes down to it, if you feel crappy it’s because your brain is telling you that there’s a problem that’s unaddressed or unresolved. In other words, negative emotions are a call to action. When you feel them, it’s because you’re supposed to do something. Positive emotions, on the other hand, are rewards for taking the proper action. When you feel them, life seems simple and there is nothing else to do but enjoy it. Then, like everything else, the positive emotions go away, because more problems inevitably emerge.”~ Mark Manson
“Problems never stop; they merely get exchanged and/or upgraded.”~ Mark Manson
“Happiness comes from solving problems. The keyword here is ‘solving.’ If you’re avoiding your problems or feel like you don’t have any problems, then you’re going to make yourself miserable. If you feel like you have problems that you can’t solve, you will likewise make yourself miserable. The secret sauce is in the solving of the problems, not in not having problems in the first place.”~ Mark Manson
“Happiness is a constant work-in-progress, because solving problems is a constant work-in-progress—the solutions to today’s problems will lay the foundation for tomorrow’s problems, and so on. True happiness occurs only when you find the problems you enjoy having and enjoy solving.”~ Mark Manson
“The truth is that there’s no such thing as a personal problem. If you’ve got a problem, chances are millions of other people have had it in the past, have it now, and are going to have it in the future. Likely people you know too. That doesn’t minimize the problem or mean that it shouldn’t hurt. It doesn’t mean you aren’t legitimately a victim of some circumstances. It just means you’re not special. Often, it’s this realization—that you and your problems are actually not privileged in their severity or pain—that is the first and most important step toward solving them.”~ Mark Manson
“The more you desperately want to be rich, the more poor and unworthy you feel, regardless of how much money you actually make. The more you desperately want to be sexy and desired, the uglier you come to see yourself, regardless of your actual physical appearance. The more you desperately want to be happy and loved, the lonelier and more afraid you become, regardless of those who surround you. The more you want to be spiritually enlightened, the more self-centered and shallow you become in trying to get there.”~ Mark Manson
“The person you marry is the person you fight with. The house you buy is the house you repair. The dream job you take is the job you stress over. Everything comes with an inherent sacrifice—whatever makes us feel good will also inevitably make us feel bad. What we gain is also what we lose. What creates our positive experiences will define our negative experiences. This is a difficult pill to swallow. We like the idea that there’s some form of ultimate happiness that can be attained. We like the idea that we can alleviate all of our suffering permanently. We like the idea that we can feel fulfilled and satisfied with our lives forever. But we cannot.”~ Mark Manson
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