Giving advice is easy; most everybody does it. Following advice is not so easy; tricky at best. Watching out for these 3 things will help you sort through the good vs the bad advice.
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When we’re given good advice and it moves us to take good actions—we’ll get good results. When we’re given bad advice, sometimes that will lead us to take bad actions (and get bad results that we can learn from), and sometimes it will stop us from moving at all.
When sorting through advice for the good vs. the bad, you should always remember that advice is only as good as the actions it inspires you to take. It’s better to have taken a bad action that you can learn from and keep moving forward with, than to not have taken any action at all. And at the other end, really great advice that you do nothing about is just as good as no advice at all—action is always the difference maker.
When it comes to success, there will ALWAYS be a struggle in some way, shape, or form and we should drop the notion of living a struggle-free life—it simply won’t happen. So, what’s the solution then?
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Introduction: No sugar-coating here.
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson is a book that cuts right to the chase. In his own words he says, “Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it.” And while it may sound like a grim and negative perspective on life, his advice is actually quite practical and direct and can help you turn your life around in less time than a lot of the, “sugar-coated” products available on the market today.
When it comes to success, Manson’s stance is that there will ALWAYS be a struggle in some way, shape, or form and that you should drop the notion of having a struggle-free career or living a struggle-free life—it simply won’t happen. Moreover, it would lead to a boring existence! Problems force us to think outside of our comfort zones and challenge us to grow to stronger mental, physical, and spiritual states. The same way our bodies become stronger when challenged with resistance training and conditioning, so too does our mind and spirit become stronger with problem solving and critical thinking. The trick, Manson suggests, is to find the problems and struggles worth challenging yourself over—the ones you actually enjoy sitting with and working to solve.
10 Quotes That Will Help You Believe In Yourself – Even When (Especially When) You’re Feeling Really Low.
Introduction: Having Faith in the Sunshine
The following 10 quotes are from the book, I Wrote This For You by Iain Thomas—an acclaimed exploration that began as a blog in 2007 of hauntingly beautiful words, photography, and emotion that’s unique to each person that reads it. I Wrote This For You is one of those rare books that doesn’t speak to you from the outside-in—like a friend giving you advice that you would then internalize, but rather from the inside-out—like you just opened up a diary and were feeling deep emotions that you could never verbalize or express, which, were then manifesting outward from your soul into your whole being.
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The following is an excerpt from the book Mastery by Robert Greene. In it, he discusses his strategies for dealing with fools in a way that allows you to keep focused on moving forward on your path towards personal mastery. The path is long and arduous and the last thing you want is for some fools along the way to distract you, demotivate you, or bring you down to their level. Read on and level up!
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In the course of your life you will be continually encountering fools. There are simply too many to avoid.
We can classify people as fools by the following rubric: when it comes to practical life, what should matter is getting long-term results, and getting the work done in as efficient and creative a manner as possible. That should be the supreme value that guides people’s actions. But fools carry with them a different scale of values.
Introduction: The balance between home life and travel
Being home, in our hometown, surrounded by our friends and family, and busy with our purpose and mission—keeps us grounded and allows us to grow our roots.
Traveling to new places, in strange lands, surrounded by strangers and new experiences, and busy with the act of exploring—keeps us growing and allows us to stretch our branches.
The two experiences of deepening our roots and stretching our branches are the two balancing forces that lead to a well-rounded life.
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Introduction: To mothers, we are eternally grateful.
At this point in my life I consider myself to be a grown adult, yet just last week, it took the care of my mom to get me to the doctor’s office (which I was stubbornly avoiding) so that I could get the care I needed to feel better. I feel better now.
When I was a teenager I went through an independence/ don’t-talk-to-me phase and essentially shut my mom out. I was cold and short with conversation but her warmth never faded. She knew how to take a hint and never pushed, but stayed in contact enough where we didn’t grow far apart. I eventually started to open back up.
Bill Bradley (b. 1943) fell in love with the sport of basketball somewhere around the age of ten. He had one advantage over his peers—he was tall for his age. But beyond that, he had no real natural gift for the game. He was slow and gawky, and could not jump very high. None of the aspects of the game came easily to him. He would have to compensate for all of his inadequacies through sheer practice. And so he proceeded to devise one of the most rigorous and efficient training routines in the history of sports.
The following is an excerpt from the book, How To Live A Good Life by Jonathan Fields.
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“I am angry and sad,” Kelvin Moon Loh’s Facebook post began. “Just got off stage from today’s matinee and yes, something happened. Someone brought their autistic child to the theater.”
Loh was in the Broadway cast of The King and I, and a mom came to see the show with her son, who was apparently autistic. During an intense moment Loh described as “the whipping scene,” the child yelped and then, according to reports, became inconsolable. Loh wrote, “His voice pierced the theater. The audience started to rally against the mother and her child to be removed. I heard murmurs of ‘Why would you bring a child like that to the theater?'”
New York animation artist Jeff Hong has created less-than-rosy portrayals of Disney characters as they might fare in today’s world. They are not cheery images, but they are poignant in their depictions of very real challenges, from animal testing and ocean pollution to drug addiction and teen suicide.
In many of these instances it’s easy to feel overwhelmed with sadness, anger, and fear but what’s critically important is that we don’t let it paralyze us in our tracks. While it’s true that many of these depicted challenges are of a massive scale, we can’t simply let that stop us from doing anything at all. For this is the only life and the only earth we have—there are no do-overs. And while that may sound cliché, it can’t be overstated because we’ve already had our wake-up calls—too many to count. And yet, there is still so much that needs to be done—we mustn’t turn a blind eye nor sleep on our feet.
Introduction: What exactly is intimacy and why do we crave it so much?
Humans are social animals, and as such, we have a need to feel connected to others and to believe that we are worthy of feeling love. If one of the worst punishments we have in our criminal justice system is solitary confinement—the isolation of a prisoner in a separate cell away from all other human contact—then it can be imagined that intimacy, close personal relations, is one of the ultimate rewards.
In an article by Shana Schutte, she elaborates that, “Real intimacy makes us feel alive like we’ve been found, as if someone finally took the time to peer into the depths of our soul and really see us there. Until then, until we experience true intimacy, we will feel passed over and ignored, like someone is looking right through us.”
Three of my favorite quotes from Mark Manson’s book The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck that will make you feel better about commitment. Enjoy 🙂
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Read the full post here: 9 Relationship Quotes That Will Make You Feel Better About Commitment.
The following list of relationship quotes were all derived from Mark Manson’s book The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck. With a title like that, I’m sure you’ve already gathered this much but just to set the tone for the quotes you’re about to read, Mark is the type of author who cuts right to the chase and doesn’t sweet-talk any of the advice he gives. There’s no positive mantras, affirmations, or feel-good stories—in fact, it’s a refreshing dose of just the opposite.
In his own words he says, “Let’s be honest, shit is f**ked and we have to live with it.” And while it may sound like a grim and negative perspective on life, his advice is actually quite practical and direct and can help you turn your life around in less time than a lot of what he would consider to be the sugar-coated product(s) available on the market today.
The Order of Interbeing, Tiep Hien in Vietnamese, is a community of monastics and lay people who have committed to living their lives in accord with the Fourteen Mindfulness Trainings, a distillation of the Bodhisattva (Enlightened Being) teachings of Mahayana Buddhism. They were formed by Thich Nhat Hanh in the mid- 1960s, at a time when the Vietnam War was escalating and the teachings of the Buddha were desperately needed to combat the hatred, violence, and divisiveness enveloping his country. Today, there are more than four hundred members of the core community and many thousands of other worldwide who recite the Fourteen Mindfulness Trainings regularly .
I share these with you today as I dedicate myself to become one of the many thousand who recite them regularly. In fact, when I first read the Fourteen Mindfulness Trainings in Peace is Every Step by Thich Nhat Hanh, the first thought that came to my mind was, “How might I put these onto a poster so that I may read them daily?!” And then it got me thinking even further about making them a part of my morning ritual. I figure the way you start your day will determine how the rest of the day will flow and reading these principles puts me into an incredibly clear and compassionate state of mind. My belief is that they will do the same for you.